Let It Be
Thinking of getting the Autism Awareness logo tattooed on my neck. Where it proud.
As soon as I’ve got my official NHS diagnosis I’m getting ‘courage’ tattooed on my chest. Trust me I’ve needed that with the way I’ve been treated and misunderstood by people. Takes a fuck load of courage to live in your own world confused with the way everyone else makes you fit into theirs.
Autism is a very wide spectrum, it’s a neurological impairment that isn’t the fault of the person who has it. Mental illness is also common with Autistic people simply because of the whole manor of issues we encounter trying to feel included in what is the most rigid and intense world at times. Some of us have higher testosterone, our senses are tuned at a higher level and overall we find everything much more intense and vivid. To be honest the list of things we encounter is very long and not all of us experience the same parts that effect others on the spectrum.
Medication and Intense fitness
I’m currently needing several tablets to help me stabilise whilst going through the most terrible time with everything that gave me comfort removed, I lost my job, house and family in recent months, this is one sure way to destroy someone with autism. I’m on citralipram for depression, diazepam for anxiety and zopiclone to help me sleep.
Another way I combat my confusion is to do heavy exercise, I run and swim most days and I use resistance training to burn my excess testosterone which plagues me if not, I feel far more agitated with the world if i’m not keeping up my regular exercise. I also bike everywhere I can, this also keeps my blood flowing and my mind away from the negative spirals that can occur if I’m left in isolation for too long. Again, being in isolation tends to be one of my coping mechanisms, although I only tend to use this after being around loads of people, this is when I tend to feel very exhausted from trying to interpret all the mannerisms and energy I seem to pick up whilst around other people. Let alone the lights and sounds that replay through my mind continuously after being overwhelmed. Its another side effect of being in fight or flight a lot of the time whilst in public, I tend to be very aware and much more alert than is needed in most situations.
Again, it’s not a choice it’s a neurological disorder. So next time you feel the need to tell someone who’s autistic their wrong, stop and think, is it wrong that they express themselves the way they do, maybe it’s wrong that you cannot understand that expression and should learn to appreciate different ways of communicating yourself. Society is very programmed to be a certain way, it’s time to start writing a new program that broadens the scope to include more people to be able to interact.
It’s ok to express yourself
Furthermore with children who are autistic, the time has come where forcing them to adhere to the rigid world we all live in has been proven to adversely effect these children. Allowing the child to express themselves, which will mean it’s out of your comfort zone, means that child will grow not being told NO to everything they do but yes. A simple allowance can help an autistic person be able to remove whatever tension or agitation is bothering them, that might be cutting up pieces of paper, throwing stones at a wall, using a Lego set incorrectly or not in a conventional way. These things which you might think aren’t normal might be ways that a person with autism is feeling at ease about a situation.
Letting It Be
The key is to ‘let it be’ – as long as no one is in any danger who are we to judge that this is wrong or incorrect, this is the expression of that individual and they are doing it to help themselves relax and feel enjoyment. The same as other children might draw, or bounce a ball. It’s just different to what you understand and that’s why it feels wrong. When in actual fact it’s not wrong at all. You’re just programmed to think that.
These expressions lead to breakthroughs in that person, they have a far deeper mind than you realise a lot of the time. Sometimes they might be working out a situation that’s bothered them and this moment of expression is how they’re making sense of it. No different to anyone else, just in a different way to how you might do it.
Hope this helps someone because we all try to communicate daily with one another and it’s very hard sometimes. I just feel deeply sorry for anyone who’s denied the ability to express themselves and surrounded by people who won’t make the effort to ‘let you be’
One love and Big hugs to everyone who’s got a struggle, we got this and don’t let the ignorance of others control your happiness! 😎
NJC over an out!
Strategies. Negative Framing. Disrespectful. Purposeful. Unwilling. Obstinate. Lazy. Mean. Arrogant. Reframing. Social Confusion. Social Anxiety. Coping mechanisms. Doing the best they can with the skills they have. Having AS is EXHAUSTING! Reframing workplace behaviors like the ones we just profiled is one way to normalize employment for adults. It can help our clients to believe they can be workers. I actually use this slide when I talk with employers, too. I hope it makes them into work believers too. ©Asperger/Autism Network.